所谓朋友

what are friends? Friends are the bunch of people you keep around yourself and in your life by CHOICE. and by choice, meaning friends might come and go. some would stay, some would leave. and things happen for a reason, so whether they stay or leave, there's always a reason. sometimes, it's the distance and different pathways that tore friends apart. in some cases, things just fall apart. And in each case, whether a friend stays or leave, tells a tale of yourself.

so, when a friend leaves. what does it mean? it might mean that you're not needed in their lives anymore, vice versa. or if it is due to conflict and discontentment that can't be resolved, it might just mean that your paths have differ, and the friendship is not meant to be. Also, a disappointing friendship may also be a lesson for you to reflect upon yourself. some mistakes, some doing of yourselves, have actually hurt the other person with you not realizing it. so, in a friendship that has fallen apart, you could choose to learn from it, or just walk away.

What about the friends who are still staying around you? Friends leaving and staying is actually just the same as a half-filled cup of water. you may view it as half full, or half empty. people stay beside you for a reason too. do they enjoy your company? do they want some benefits? do they just love being in a crowd of people? or do they really like who you are. It's quite important to realize this more than the other( the part about friends leaving). It's important to realize that people who hang around you, have, indeed, CHOSEN to be around you. isn't that something more precious? isn't that something to be treasured? and treasure it before it is GONE. the same things don't work FOREVER. people change. so do you. also, realizing that means knowing what your strengths are. if you know why people love being around you, it would give you confidence, motivation, and more reasons to do the same to others.

don't take things for granted. 人家对你好，是人情；不对你好，是道理。

just a few weeks, and I realized I'm not the simple girl who fails to realize and figure out things anymore. the more I discovered, the sadder, really. but, we're all grown ups now. don't expect happiness to be given by others. create your own, and infect others as well.

grasp the moment before it is gone. be thankful before it is too late.

til then.

ciao~